Mirror Synchronicity: The downside of insight

Recently I was talking to a friend on the phone and she suddenly started sounding very angry. For me, it was out of the blue and I was surprised and a little hurt. I didn't know what I had done to deserve the tone that I was hearing. I asked her - "You sound angry" and she said that she was. She was irritated with me because she said I always had a negative outlook on things.

I actually think I am a very optimistic person, but I also believe in the philosophy "hope for the best but plan for the worst." Sometimes when people tell me things that they are planning, I can see things they haven't thought of but when I bring it up, they think that I'm being pessimistic.

Then last night another friend yelled at me because I made a comment about a fire pit. I am a red cross disaster responder and I see fires every day happen from really benign situations. Fire pits, cigarettes, stray lighters, mulch... but my friend was like "enough already with the fire stories!! We don't care!!" (rather mean too).

So with these two incidents happening within relatively close proximity to each other, I am getting the message that I need to adjust. I am grappling with my natural tendency to think three steps ahead and what that means for others when I offer unsolicited comments. I am not telling them what to do. I am not trying to stop them... I just think about consequences and outcomes more than other people... I know now that it's annoying but I know that it's going to be hard to stop. Any suggestions? Hopefully someone in the universe will read this post and help me. I certainly don't want to be annoying people. I'm really just trying to help (and yes, I know that they don't see it that way).

Directional Synchronicity: Modern Day Manners

Lately I have been lamenting that no one is returning my calls. I have multiple friends who normally are very good at social graces. Suddenly ALL of them are not calling me or writing me back. These are even people who don't know each other. I was starting to feel very alone and rejected. The coincidence of it all was just too much to take. Then it hit me. It's not about me. It's not about them. Right now, I have things I want to accomplish and I have not been focused. I have been procrastinating and using my friends to do it. Whenever I didn't feel like staying on task, I was calling friends to go out to lunch or dinner or just get together. The universe took my friends away from me temporarily so that I can get my work done this summer. It was a harsh way to do it, but I wasn't focusing on my own, so the universe decided to 'help me out a little bit'.

very funny. I get it.

Directional Synchronicity: Automatic Writing

My grandmother talked about automatic writing a lot and she even did some herself. One of her favorite authors was Ruth Montgomery who channeled guides and spirits and wrote books from what they said.

[as an aside, I was a bit overwhelmed by the volume of books by Ruth - any suggestions on where to start?]

So I did some google searches to find out how to do automatic writing. One of the suggestions that I saw was to have the brain somewhat distracted watching tv while the hand is writing. My first attempt involved me playing Bejeweled with my left hand while I tried to write with my right hand. The writing came out complete jibberish. They weren't even letters but something that looked like a heart rate. So then I thought that maybe it would be easier to type. I tried playing texas holdem on my phone and switching which hands I was typing with. Here's what I wrote:

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A bunch of nonsense again. So I gave up. When I woke up this morning, my brain was wired and even though I was still super tired, I couldn't stop thinking. So I got out my journal and just started writing. I wrote and wrote and wrote. The one thing that I did differently than I normally do is that I didn't correct anything. Sometimes I wrote the wrong word or I misspelled words and I didn't go back to correct them. Now, this is not a new idea of course... The Artist Way suggests that we write 'morning pages' every day. I've tried it before but I think I was still self editing. Maybe because I was tired - I just didn't do that... just kept writing for pages and pages. Seven pages in all with no breaks, which is a new record for me. Anyways - the clarity and understanding that came through for me was absolutely incredible. I know this sounds cheesy but my life will never be the same from this day forward. It was that good for me. Try it. :) and of course, if at first you don't succeed, try, try again.

So back to the synchronicity - I really feel like the timing of my dad giving me my grandmother's messages was exactly what I needed at this point in time.

Directional Synchronicity: Grandma speaks

(Also a mirror Synchronicity as well).

Last week my dad brought a CD over to my house with a recording my grandmother had made in November of 1976. It was a recording of messages that she wanted to pass on to her oldest grandchild (I am the youngest). My grandmother died in 1981, when I was a child and I barely remember her. This recording of her voice was so precious but what was even more amazing was the timing of it. She talked about reincarnation and karma and life lessons and I found it to be fascinating. Hanging on to the edge of every word I was so excited to hear that she wrote about her experience of working with Jesus on the cosmic side. I was already thinking to myself that I needed to find out if any of my family members had a copy of what she wrote and had learned.

Then, much to my surprise, she said that she had met a man with a PhD in Ministry who told her it was the most beautiful thing he had ever read and that she should publish it. She said, "I had no right to print it...each person must find these things out within themselves." ACK! I was disappointed. WHAT?! I'm not sure the writing even exists anymore. I was so disappointed.

Then a couple of days later, everything just HIT me. I GET it now. Just like she said on the recording where she was only explaining 1% of what she truly understood about reincarnation and lessons. THE LESSON IS that no one else can tell you what you even need to learn! Only you know!!! I started laughing uncontrollably. Once I wrapped my brain around it, I was tickled... I had been visiting psychics. I had been wanting to 'see' spirits... I was searching for something but it was there all along. No one else can give you the answers. The big question to ask yourself is "Why?" What am I meant to learn from this situation? Each day has a purpose.

I think sometimes it takes distance before we really figure it out. The easist way to start practicing is to review childhood events and what was significant about them. The good and the bad. Sometimes we learn more from our troubles. Actually I think more than sometimes...

Anyways - one of MY lessons from this big revelation was about this blog. I had been disappointed that my 'friends' weren't reading it. I realized that this blog is not for them. It's for whomever finds it. I hope that my sharing my thoughts and my lessons helps others to discover their own purpose and lessons.

Mirror Synchronicity: Go it "alone"

Friday night I visited with an old friend to celebrate her birthday. We have been friends for fifteen years. Our friendship has ebbed and flowed over time. At one time we worked together and lived steps away in the same apartment complex. Later, after she had 4 children and moved to a small town about 45 minutes away, we would sometimes go for months without talking. We weren't mad at each other, just busy with life. At a very significant time in her life when she was at a rough spot with marriage and family and "life". I wasn't there for her. She felt very alone. It's not that I didn't want to be there, I just couldn't. I had a job that required weekly travel (oh yes, there are blogs about those days if you look way back). At that time I was also processing my mom's decline, her eventual death and the grieving that follows. My friend wasn't there for me at that time either. She was busy with life.

The other night we looked at each other and asked "Why weren't you there for me?" Then it dawned on us as a mutual understanding. We realized together that the universe had other plans. We were meant to carry the burdens and get through the struggles without the other. The lessons we needed to learn could not have happened any other way. It was with this realization that we both felt gratitude that we were back together again. Strangely enough, she lives even farther away now, but the universe has allowed us to reconnect and I am able to get to know her four lovely children and watch them grow up.

Of course, this reminds me of the Footprints poem by Mary Stevenson which so eloquently reminds us that we are never truly "alone".

Mirror Coincidence: If you need something, just ask

I was at a girl's poker night party at my friend's house and we started talking about a mentalist that I was going to see in Vegas. I was trying to explain that mentalists aren't psychic but that they just are very good with non-verbal signals. I started looking around for a small object like a penny to demonstrate one of the tricks but I couldn't find one in my pockets or in my friend's junk drawer. Finally, I said "Does anyone have a penny?" and right then my friend Jami handed me the penny she was holding in her hand. She said that just that moment she realized she had a single penny in her pocket and she thought it was weird.

As a side note, I demonstrated my trick and my friend Amy who is really good at reading people guessed 7 out of 7 correctly which hand I was hiding it in, even though I was trying to hold my hands exactly the same.

Directional Synchronicity: Things fall in place

This is a story of a friend of a friend named Stephanie. She was a Biology school teacher in Columbus, Ohio. She was in a long distance relationship with a guy from New York. Feeling that he was the one, and ready to take the next step, she took a huge risk and quit her job and moved to New York. After only three weeks there, he found out he was being transferred to Columbus. Since she was only in New York to be with him, she, of course, wanted to move back as well. She called her old school to see if there was any opportunity to get her old job back. As it turned out, her job had been filled but had just come open an hour before. Now this is really where the connectedness is amazing.

The person ("Ann") who had taken her Biology teacher position was really a chemistry teacher by heart but took the position to get into that school. The person at that school who taught chemistry ("Barb") liked the school but really wanted to work at the school right next to where she lived. Sure enough, a job opened up, and "Barb", the chemistry teacher moved to the other school. Ann, the chemistry teacher who was set to teach biology moved into the chemistry teaching position and Stephanie's job was available for her to return.

Mirror Synchronicity: Reincarnation in Pop Culture

I'm not sure if this a synchronicity in the true sense of the word, but I have noticed recently that reincarnation has been mentioned in two different television shows this season. First off, episode 10 of Mental (watch here on Hulu) has a character who is a reincarnation of someone from the early 20th century. The second show's entire premise is based on reincarnation. Drop Dead Diva is about a woman who dies and then in heaven when she is being evaluated she breaks the rules and pushes a button and gets sent back to earth in another body. The premise is that it's a model-type that is sent back to earth to the body of someone who likes doughnuts a lot. I expected the show to be bad and didn't even record it but I decided to watch one episode later and then I liked it so much I went back and watched all the previous episodes that I missed. The point of the show is that the woman is back to learn lessons.

Now I certainly can't say that I know how reincarnation works, but I am pleased to say that both of these shows fit within my schema of how I think it works (with the exception of the computer in heaven...). I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts...

Mirror Coincidence: You've Got Mail

So I blog every coincidence, whether or not I feel it is a true synchronicity. I am a huge fan of Judd Apatow and I read that he had an old tv series from 2001 called Undeclared. I was watching the first episode on DVD and Seth Rogan said his favorite movie was You've Got Mail, which came out in 1998. Then later that day or on the next day, I was watching an episode of my new favorite show, Drop Dead Diva and an angel character was studying old romantic comedies to learn how to woo a girl he liked. Sure enough, there was a reference to You've Got Mail. It was just strange to me that two different t.v. shows, one current and one old referenced that movie. Kind of makes me want to watch it again!

Mediumship 101: 5 Steps to Build Your Connection to Spirit

AHA! Just discovered Llewellyn Journal. Llewellyn is one of my favorite publishers. Basically, I look for the little moon sign on the spine when I'm browsing at Half Price Books (my favorite store). I didn't know that Llewellyn had online articles. I would do the RSS feed but I'm not quite that sophisticated in my blogging yet. I liked this article. Incidentally, for those of you that read that I lost my kitty a few weeks ago, she is still with me every night. This is my first experience ever where I am 100% certain that I'm connecting to the other side. It's pretty amazing. Plus, for you cat owners, you know that the purring is soooo comforting to fall asleep to!

Anyways - here is the article... the author talked about the connection being a blessing, so I thought it was a nice coincidence that I found it.

Mediumship 101: 5 Steps to Build Your Connection to Spirit

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Required Reading: Unfinished Business

James Van Praagh is one of my favorite of the nationally known psychics who write books. (I am also a big fan of Sonia Choquette). Mr. Van Praagh has an easy-going way about him and a conversational writing style. He seems like somone I would enjoy having tea with. The book is really all about making the most of each day now and living your life to it's fullest. I know that sounds kind of cheesy by my description but it really is a kick in the butt to stop thinking 'someday.... What I also really like about Mr Van Praagh is that he's humble and he admits that he still makes mistakes sometimes too. I can't say yet that it changed my life, but I do feel like since I've finished the book I have had a different outlook on life. It's the kind of book I can see myself picking up again once a year as a refresher.